Quick Tip: What You Say Is How It Goes AND Who You Are…Whether You Believe It Or Not!
Today is a short Stress Therapy session…but a very important quick tip and pep talk to get you revved up and ready for change in your life.
In this episode we will learn:
~Why what we say, determines who we are and how it’s going
~How to turn it around and affirm what you want in your life
~Intuitive Meditation
The Host for this podcast: Cheri Augustine Flake, LCSW The Stress Therapist and Author
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“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t, either way, you’re right!” -Henry Ford
“Live each moment completely and the future will take care of itself. Fully enjoy the wonder and beauty of each moment.” -Paramahansa Yoganada
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[00:00] Hey, beautiful people. What’s up? So my October is filled to the top. It’s a lot of wonderful things, but just a lot of things. And I don’t want to leave you hanging. I don’t want to not meet with you. So today I’m going to give you a very quick tip that I hope is super helpful and then we’ll meditate together. It’s season six tips and tricks that this psychotherapist wants you to know. So relax and settle in and listen up because your stress therapy session is.
[00:26] About to begin right now.
[00:41] Hey, beautiful people. It’s time for some stress therapy. A podcast about how to meditate and get better at stress for people living in the real world. Finally, a place to park my 25 plus years of experience of working as a psychotherapist in the mental health field. And now your host, me, the stress therapist, cheri Flake. Before we get into the thick of it, we’re going to take a teensy tiny break. Be right back. Hey, beautiful people. Okay, so often I get this all the time. This happens all the time. And I bet it happens to you too, right? So you tell someone that you’re excited about something. Oh, let’s say pickleball. Isn’t everybody talking so much about pickleball? I mean, pickleball is like the new it thing. I’m going to have to try this thing. Everybody’s so excited about it. I mean, there is so many pickleball enthusiasts. And one of the nice things about it is that once people start playing, they really want you to get in on it, right? They’re like telling you with all of this vigor and they’re lit up and they want you to try out pickleball. And it’s all with good intentions and kindness and you’ll see a lot of people react, right? The first person might say something like, oh yeah, I’ve been playing pickleball. It’s a blast. And the second person might say, oh yeah, I’ve been meaning to try it. It just looks like so much fun. And the third person might say, oh, I don’t like the rackets, they’re too loud in my neighborhood. Whatever. There’s always someone who’s complaining, but there’s always someone who says something like, I could never do that because of this, this and this. And sometimes I’m making quote marks valid reasons, okay? Because all reasons are valid, but all reasons really aren’t valid, right? Like no reason to not do something is ever super valid. I mean, we can always change regardless of what it is. But they’ll say I could never do that because I have this injury or because I hate tennis, or because I don’t have a pickleball place near me or because I don’t have enough money for a pickleball racket or whatever it is. They can’t play pickleball and they’ve come up with this reason why they can’t play pickleball. And you can insert any pickleball. Example here. I can’t get up early. I can’t learn how to play the guitar. Then they’ll say things that are really personal to them. Like they’re talking about the novel that they can’t write. Even though you didn’t even ask them to write a novel. Right. Or the reason why they can’t go back to grad school. Or the reason why they can’t like something personal, like something that clearly has to do with them. Or the reason why I can’t run anymore. But it was my favorite thing to do. Or it whatever it is, right? They’re telling you all the reasons why they can’t do something. And here’s the thing. What you say is how it goes and who you are, whether you believe that or not, okay? So if you’re walking around and saying, I can’t because I don’t know if you guys know this, I’m sure you’ve heard me mention it, I hope I haven’t mentioned it too much, but okay, let me preface this story by saying I’m a very good roller skater, all right? I’m an amazing roller skater. However, I was in Jekyll Island on one of my retreats, and I was actually skating towards my wrist guards. I was going to get them, and my last thought was I’m going really fast and then like, tripped over a Twig and it was like a two minute fall. It was big and dramatic, and I broke my wrist and it was a super drag because it was my right wrist and it took a really long time to heal. And I may have mentioned that to you while I was injured, but while I was injured and while it really hurt really bad and it took a long time to heal, y’all, it took forever, okay? However, it is healed. And what I really didn’t want was keep talking about it or talking about things I couldn’t do. And there were a lot of things I couldn’t do. I mean, I love standing on my head, I love doing handstands. I mean, that was just the tip of the iceberg of the things that I couldn’t do. But I really didn’t want to be one of these people that for the rest of my life, every time it rains, every time it whatever, my wrist hurts. And now you might be saying, oh, but your wrist really might hurt because of the weather or because of the barometric pressure or whatever. But all I’m saying is, if you think that you can’t ever do handstands again because your wrist is injured, you’re right. Whether you think you can or you think you can’t, you are right. We all have a friend who’s on like, say, the Facebook, who’s talking about some ailment or diagnosis that they’ve gotten and they’re going on and on and on about it. I’m not saying that’s not legit. Every diagnosis is legit. I come from a medical background. I get it. I come from the psych unit at the emergency room. I get it. I’m just saying that the guy who’s walking around and saying, my diabetes, and I’m really showing my age here. But that guy on those commercials, he’s talking about his diabetes. He’s owning it. I hear people say, my ADHD, my whatever, I can’t meditate, I can’t meditate. I can’t do this because of that, and I can’t do this, and I can’t get up early because of this, and I can’t do that. I’m just saying that whatever it is that you’re saying you can do or you cannot do, you are affirming that your brain is listening to that. And we love nothing more than to be right. It’s our favorite thing. In fact, we would rather be right and comfortable in misery than happy in something new just because it’s familiar and it’s not you. And it’s not you in particular, and it’s not this particular diagnosis. I don’t care what the diagnosis is, high blood pressure, whatever it is, okay? I’m just saying if you’re walking around owning it, you’re not going to be able to change it, because whatever you think you can or cannot do and you’re saying that over and over and over again. I won’t even work with people who say those things to me. That’s why I do an interview at the beginning to see if they’re like, I would like this to change, and I want this to change. And I’m willing to do the work for this to change, regardless of whatever it is, even if it’s just changing their attitude about their diagnosis. If they’re not flexible in that way, they will not be flexible the rest of their lives. And you will go get a diagnosis, and you will carry it with you to your grave. You will not change. And I’m saying there’s way too much magic on this earth. There’s way too many miraculous recoveries. There’s way too many things that I personally have overcome that I never in a million years could have thought that I had the power to do or watched my clients do, or just people around us in these amazing books about people who have changed. And they’ve gone through it and they’ve decided, and it all starts with a decision. I don’t want to be depressed anymore. I’m not stuck like this. You are not stuck, but if you walk around talking about being stuck, you’re going to be stuck. Am I making any sense? I wanted to make this a quick tip, and maybe it’s getting a little longer than that. And I hope that I’m not yelling at you. Somebody left me a review on the Apple podcast saying that it sounds like I’m just getting yelled at. I hope that’s not the case. I hope it feels more like a pep talk, because I really want this for you. If you want to be able to pay attention better, if you want your blood pressure to go down, if you want to sleep better, if you want to get up early, if you want to be a runner, if you want to write a novel, whatever it is you want to do, I’m telling you, you can do it. And it starts with a decision and it starts with feeling what it would feel like if you could do that thing or be that thing or experience that thing and feeling that and keeping your eye on the prize. So it’s a heightened emotion with a clear intention. And do not walk around thinking and saying things and explaining to people the things that you don’t want, okay? Because you are a walking affirmation. Your brain is listening and it can make you be whatever it is that you’re thinking and saying. So make a decision. Decide what it is that you want to change. Know that you can do it, even if it seems 1000 miles away. I’m behind you. I will send good intentions your way. And hopefully if you enjoy this podcast and you don’t feel like mealing at you and this feels like a pep talk, hey man, shoot me back with a review and I’ll mention it on the podcast. I love you to pieces. Let’s quickly meditate together. Come on, let’s do it right now. O.
[09:18] In your designated meditation space, close your eyes and find a comfortable sitting position. Sitting up, allow your head to saddle, your face to settle and all the muscles around your eyes to settle. Close your eyes, allow your jaw to settle and your neck and spine to settle. And with your chin level to the ground, sitting up in an alert position, but comfortable, I want you to bring all of your attention to your heart center. From breastplate to spine. You can imagine this space as a beautiful green and as air passes through and comes and goes, it lights up this beautiful green heart center. And as if you were out in the wilderness and you were using a saw to cut a log, imagine that your breath is the saw. Back and forth, back and forth, and your heart center is the log. So all of your attention is not on the back and forth, but you would keep your eye on the log. Hold your log, hold your focus there as your breath passes back and forth, back and forth. This is the saw meditation. I’ll leave you with it for a few minutes. Stay with it and I’ll be back to guide you out. Allow your attention to just fall away from the saw, fall away from your heart center and bring your attention to the music, to my voice. It back into this room, into this time, into this moment, and maybe just notice how you feel compared to when we began. Whatever that is, it just is. Doesn’t have to be good or bad or better or worse, it just is. And before you open your beautiful eyes, let’s take a long, slow awakening. Breath in your nose. Let it go out of your mouth and again in your nose, letting all that beautiful breath go out of your mouth. And one last big, cleansing, awakening breath in your nose. And as you let it all go out of your mouth, you can open your beautiful eyes.
[22:30] Okay, I’m ready. I’m ready to hear whatever decision you have made. I’m ready to hear the affirmation that you’ve been telling yourself that you don’t want to be telling yourself, and the new affirmation that you’ve made that you do want to be telling yourself. Write to me. Get in touch with me. Come on. Retreat with me. Hang out with me. Let’s change over this miraculous transformational weekend in the mountains. I have just a couple of spaces left, and it’s only three weeks away. And by the time this drops, it’ll probably only be, like, one week away. You’ve got this. Come with me. Be spontaneous. Let’s do this. Have a lovely, lovely day. It’s time to tell you about another ethereal network of shows podcast that I think you’re going to absolutely love.
[23:11] Hello. My name is Melissa Oatman, and I’m the host of Awaken Your Inner Awesomeness. I’m a teacher, healer, intuitive, and single mom of twins. I’m an empath and are a covering people, pleaser. I created Awaken Your Inner Awesomeness to help other people like me learn how to stop living their lives for others so that they could start living their absolute best lives. I cover topics in spirituality and self improvement, like setting healthy boundaries, working with the archangels, and protecting your energy. I end every episode by pulling a card of guidance to help you get a message to start your day off right. I also interview fascinating guests who cover a wide range of self help topics. If this sounds interesting to you, then what are you waiting for? Start listening today.
[24:06] How y’all feeling after that stress therapy session? Good. Awesome. Check out the show notes to connect with me, the stress therapist, on social media, at the Stresstherapist on Instagram, and at stresstherapy on Twitter. You can always go to ilovetherapy.com to find out about meditation and yoga retreats and other offerings that I have there. If you live in Georgia and you’re ready to be one of my clients, go to my website to find out how you can sign up for a free face to face consultation with me. At the very least, jump on my mailer so you don’t stress or miss one thing. Until next time, have a lovely, lovely day.
